Abortion: It’s Not Just a Woman’s Choice

Raquel Welch made a surprising (for her) statement last week. Jerry Janquart excerpted this little gem she wrote in It’s Sex O’clock in America:

“Seriously, folks, if an aging sex symbol like me starts waving the red flag of caution over how low moral standards have plummeted, you know it’s gotta be pretty bad. In fact, it’s precisely because of the sexy image I’ve had that it’s important for me to speak up and say: Come on girls! Time to pull up our socks! We’re capable of so much better.”

Raquel_sd457802 That’s remarkable in itself coming from a 60s sex icon. But I want to pick up on something else. She mentioned the pivotal moment in her life when she first became pregnant:

“Even though I was married to the baby’s father, Jim Welch, I wasn’t prepared for this development. … At the time, we were 19-year-old newlyweds, struggling to make ends meet. But he was unflinching in his desire to keep our baby and his positive, upbeat attitude about the whole prospect turned everything around. I have always loved Jim for how he responded in that moment.”

When she became pregnant, she was afraid, confused, and vulnerable, but she found strength in her husband and his support. This enabled her to not only carry the pregnancy to term but opened her heart up to the wonder of becoming a parent:

“During my pregnancy, I came to realize that this process was not about me. I was just a spectator to the metamorphosis that was happening inside my womb so that another life could be born. It came down to an act of self-sacrifice, especially for me, as a woman. But both of us were fully involved, not just for that moment, but for the rest of our lives. And it’s scary. You may think you can skirt around the issue and dodge the decision, but I’ve never known anyone who could. Jim and I had two beautiful children who’ve been an ongoing blessing to both of us.”

As a mother of three children, I can tell you, pregnancy is emotionally and physically overwhelming. Another life has taken over your body – it’s both wonderful and terrifying. But no matter how “together” you may otherwise be, you will also be, at some level or another, a mess in need of someone to lean on.

Which leads to my point about men and abortion:

Her husband was there for her and their children. Because of his moral backbone, their two children lived to see the light of day and became “an ongoing blessing” to both of them.

Men, listen up: If you become the father of an unborn child, you are that child’s advocate, and you may be its lifeline. Speak up, be a man, and be the father your child and your child’s mother need you to be.

You’ll never regret it.

This post first appeared in the Salvo Signs of the Times blog.

2 Comments on “Abortion: It’s Not Just a Woman’s Choice

  1. I totally agree! Abortion is not just a woman’s choice.the father of the child is also involve and sometimes the whole family.


  2. To be a man (…and not just a boy with expensive toys!) is to be protective of all those you love. However, it goes beyond that. We also have a duty to be protective of the young, the disadvantaged, and the helpless. This applies especially to the unborn, the most helpless–and the most innocent–of all.

    Sure, Scripture says that wives should be submissive to their husbands–BUT (and this is a HEAVY “but!”) in the VERY next breath it says that husbands should love their wives, “…as Christ loved the Church.” Christ loved the Church so much that He put His ENTIRE life at its disposal, and ultimately even layed down His life for her, “…even unto death–death on a cross!” Christ was and IS the ultimate man.

    In other words, the ONLY legitimate authority, is the authority of SERVICE. Any use of authority exercised outside of that service is disordered. Thus, even if exercising authority, the man MUST in so doing, be laying down his life for his wife and family.

    Ultimately no one’s life (male OR female) has extrinsic value* outside of service for others. After all, the woman is also engaged in an act of ultimate selflessness, that of subordinating her own needs for that of her child. (both during pregnancy and beyond) Thus, though the roles are different, there is perfect symmetry in God’s plan.

    As men, it is our job to protect the women and children in our lives, even laying down our own lives if necessary. Anything less is unmanly. I realize that this precludes the “Self” being all-central in our lives, and this flies in the face of everything the modern world (read, the SPIRIT of this world) tries to inculcate within us. For this I am sure I will be attacked. So be it. I lay down my very life for the Truth if needs be.

    *(Although, by that statement I mean to in NO way diminish the INTRINSIC value every human life has merely because each is made in the image and likeness of God.)


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